CHARM is DECEPTIVE, and BEAUTY is FLEETING, but a woman who FEARS the LORD is to be PRAISED . Proverbs 31:30

2/6/10

YAY for Snow !























Look at that snow drift out by the road.


















































The man, moving the snow.




































































Cleyo and the kids went out back into the field, to dig some tunnels in the large snow drifts.
















I was really bummed that they were so far away that I could not take pictures. I ran out back a few times to check on everyone, but quickly ran back in because it was so cold, and I was NOT going to walk all the way out there!

Until a few hours later........Cleyo came in to get me..........this was me following him out...............























Priscilla...on her way back into the house....





















Elijah...waiting for me to come in....

















Elijah...showing me around....






















They begged me for about 30 minutes to let them sleep outside in it. No, was the answer. Hoping someday they will thank me for that. ;]



















Me, crawling around (with no make-up). Cleyo hands me his cold, wet gloves and says, "here these will help", .........um.....no, they didn't!










My foot.


































The drifts were taller than Abby.







































Grace's sleeping hole.





















Running down to Abby's hole. Our house in the background.


















Abby's sleeping hole.


















There is a fence to the right, that helped to create large snow drifts, which was great for tunnels.























If you look closely, you can see the top of Sheldon's head. Every time I would try to take his picture, he would dive behind the drifts. Something happened when he became a teenager, he quit being a big ham that loved getting his picture taken.


















AH HA! Caught him!



















Maybe I will have more to post tomorrow.......................

1/14/10

If God decided not to show up at your church next Sunday, would anyone notice?

Would He be missed?

Would the congregation immediately enter a time of corporate soul-searching and prayer to find out what was wrong? Or would you go merrily on your way as if nothing happened?

Many churches continue their routine business week after week, completely unaware that the Master of the house is not even there. It is like attending a party or a great banquet and having a great time but never even seeing or speaking to the host.

This was the problem of the church in Sardis. Christ, the Master of the house, had no words of commendation for Sardis because He found nothing commendable there. He told them, "I know your works, that you have a name that you are alive, but you are dead." No doubt the church in Sardis was very busy. They probably had a full range of ministries and services to their community. Undoubtedly their worship was proper and correct and perhaps even lively and entertaining. They had a good reputation and may even have had money and prestige in the city.

The church in Sardis had the form of godliness, the appearance of life. They thought they were alive and well. After all, they had a name that they were alive. Their only problem was that the Holy Spirit had departed, and they never saw Him go. They were dead and didn't even know it!

Contrast this with the church in Smyrna, which received no condemnation from the Lord, only commendation. Of this congregation Jesus said simply, "I know your works, tribulation, and poverty (but you are rich). Whatever the Christians in Smyrna lacked in material wealth they made up for in spiritual riches. They may have been poor in the things that the world values, but they were rich where it counted - they had the King!

Where does your church fit? Sardis? Smyrna? Or somewhere in between? Even more important, where do you fit? God has this incredible idea that church is about Him. Yet so often we try to make it about us. We try to turn church into our own private "bless-me" club. Our entire focus centers on how many chills, thrills, and goose bumps we get and how well we are entertained. Rarely do we even think to ask what our King wants.

It doesn't matter how big your church is, or how rich. It doesn't matter how many programs and ministries you have. It doesn't matter how exciting your worship is or how eloquent your pastor may be. Without the King, you have nothing!

Don't settle for artificial worship and dead formalism, either for yourself or for your church. You have a choice: Sardis or Smyrna. Which are you? Which do you want to be?

1/11/10

Older Women....

I need your help.

One of my biggest struggles is self-control.

God has been dealing with my heart on areas that are out of control. So I decided to reread the chapter "The safety of self-control", from "Feminine Appeal", by Carolyn Mahaney. This chapter has to be one of the best readings I have done on self-control.

On pages 64-65, she says; "Self-control is so important that the apostle Paul required it, directly or by inference, of every group of Christians he addressed in the Titus 2 chapter. The emphasis placed on this virtue reveals how essential self-control is if we are to effectively commend the gospel. We cannot afford to ignore it. Therefore, if Scripture requires self-control from every Christian, it is obviously attainable by every Christian. This truth should revolutionize our understanding of self-control. For whenever God gives a command, He also provides the grace to obey it."

This comment is very important;
"For whenever God gives a command, He also provides the grace to obey it."
A few months ago, someone made a comment that has given me a better meaning of the word "grace". I always thought of grace as being free from the condemnations of my sins, that grace covered me. But this person was sharing the idea of "means of grace", like having a bible, my vision, my ears, people around me, bible studies, ect, to be able to learn more about God, and grow in my faith. And I believe that one of my means of grace is the "older women" talked about in Titus.

And let me just say that even though I am getting older, I still consider myself a "younger woman". And that this post applies to me as much as it applies to any other woman, because I will always be older than some women, and someday I will be the older women that younger women are looking for guidance from.

Titus 2:3-5 says~
"Older women likewise are to be reverent in BEHAVIOR, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to TEACH what is good, and so TRAIN the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."

God has placed some really great women in my life as role models of this text.
However, I have to share that there are others that leave me feeling defeated by complaining about something that I have done or said, by their words that condemn me, or behaviors that show signs of being displeased in me.

Complaining, or having an attitude towards other women of "I can't believe she did that, or said that", is NOT how Paul instructs the older women to handle the younger women.

I do desire to learn from you, but it is hard to do when I feel judged by you. I also want to be a good example of the generations to come. So please help me, by teaching me, training me, and setting a good example in behavior for me.

Behavior:
~ the manner of conducting oneself

Teach:
~to cause to know something, to cause to know how, to accustom to some action or attitude, to cause to know the disagreeable consequences of some action, to guide the studies of, to impart the knowledge of, to instruct by precept, example, or experience, to make known and accepted,
to conduct instruction regularly in.

Train:
~ to form by instruction, discipline, or drill, to teach so as to make fit, qualified, or proficient, to make prepared (as by exercise) for a test of skill, to aim at an object or objective, to undergo instruction, discipline.




1/9/10

"Was Jesus legalistic?"

I really had NO plans on teaching or explaining legalism, freedom in the Gospel, or how Jesus lived a perfect life.

And I still don't. For the past several weeks, Cleyo and I have been thinking and talking about Christ and how He was able to live without sin. And really, I was just curious to have thoughts from others, but only a few responded, and even though I really have no more information than I did when I started, I do have some conclusions.

First, I loved Linda G response on FB,
"Pharisees were legalistic, Jesus was obedient." ~ That completely sums it up, in 6 words!

And after some conversations with Amanda, here and through email, I believe that our thoughts are very similar, but maybe our responses are different(?).

I do have to admit that I have an issue with some Christians that take advantage of the freedom of the Gospel. Our lives must be Gospel Driven, but as Paul states in Romans 6:1-2 "What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase? 2May it never be! How shall we who died to sin still live in it?" Read all of chapter 6, it is SO GOOD;

Romans 6
Believers Are Dead to Sin, Alive to God
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What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase? 2May it never be! How shall we who died to sin still live in it? 3Or do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus have been baptized into His death? 4Therefore we have been buried with Him through baptism into death, so that as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in newness of life. 5For if we have become united with Him in the likeness of His death, certainly we shall also be in the likeness of His resurrection, 6knowing this, that our old self was crucified with Him, in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin; 7for he who has died is freed from sin. 8Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him, 9knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, is never to die again; death no longer is master over Him. 10For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 11Even so consider yourselves to be dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. 12Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, 13and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace. 15What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? May it never be! 16Do you not know that when you present yourselves to someone as slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness? 17But thanks be to God that though you were slaves of sin, you became obedient from the heart to that form of teaching to which you were committed, 18and having been freed from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. 19I am speaking in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh For just as you presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness, resulting in further lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves to righteousness, resulting in sanctification. 20For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. 21Therefore what benefit were you then deriving from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the outcome of those things is death. 22But now having been freed from sin and enslaved to God, you derive your benefit, resulting in sanctification, and the outcome, eternal life. 23For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.


I rely totally on Christ's work on the cross, and yet I am driven to obedience because of my love for God. So my conclusion, Christ was NOT legalistic, He was OBEDIENT, even unto death on the cross. So therefore, I do not want to be a slave to my "old self" but I want to be a slave to righteousness. Anyone that knows me well, or spends five minutes around me, knows that I am NOT perfect! And for those of you reading this, and have NOT trusted Christ as you Savior, there is NOT anything that I can do to earn favor with God, my salvation is a gift from God, not of works (Ephesians 2:8-9).

2 Corinthians 13:5 says, "Examine yourselves to see whether you are (standing) in Faith. Test yourselves. For you should know yourselves-that Christ Jesus is in you, unless indeed you fail to meet the test."

I must examine whether or not "my personal work" motive was to earn favor or pay back my salvation, or because of my faith in Him. I personally am driven to obedience, but yet I honestly can say that I do not have thoughts that I am earning favor or paying Christ back, not that my motives are ever correct, but I truly love God and from that love comes a desire towards obedience. Amanda stated in an email, "The line between obedience and legalism is very hard to find.", I totally agree with that. God only knows my heart. I know there has to be times when I think that I am obeying because I love God, but God only sees it as useless work. And when I fail, and I do daily, I fall back on God's promise that my sins are PAID in FULL on the CROSS through CHRIST.


And since I do not have the gift of teaching and I have probably only confused people even more, and if you are interested in listening to a Pastor that I think has been blessed with the gift of teaching, I found a link on this subject that is good, long, but good....

Christ Redeemed us from the Curse of the Law


1/8/10

Question.....

"Was Jesus legalistic?"

please no debating and only share answers with/from scripture, I am just curious................

12/30/09

December 30, 1995 ~ The Wedding

14 years ago, Cleyo and I were married. I am thankful that at that time, I did not know the trials that laid ahead, but I am also thankful that God has done a mighty work in both our hearts. Cleyo is the second greatest gift, from God, my Salvation being first.

















Looking forward to this Friday, two more days!, when we offer up a new commitment before the Lord.

January 1st, was a chosen date, for symbolic reasons, of a new beginning.

I told Cleyo last night that from here on out, I will celebrate our Anniversary every January first, as a reminder.

To God Alone be the Glory!!!

12/21/09

Remembering my dad.........

I can not believe that it has almost been six years since my father's death.

The past few days I have been thinking about the small amount of time that I had spent with him, and how in knowing more about him, I know more about myself. I have very few memories of my dad when I was really little. I was taken away from my mom around the age of 12, lived in a group home, for I think about a year (?), and then moved to live with my dad's side of the family.

My dad lived in Seattle, but moved back to Simi Valley shortly after I moved in with my Aunt Onorina (his oldest sister). I have many memories of him during this time. All good. I think that he had spent many years being a single man, that he did not know how to be a father. He made an effort to take me places and spend time with me, but when it came to talking about "how much I liked boys"..... well.......he shut down that conversation very quickly, and now I understand why!
I remember washing his car almost weekly, because he was quite the ladies man!
Wink, Wink!
LOL!

If I could be more like my dad, these are the characteristics I saw in him, that I would want;
~He never met a stranger.
~He loved everyone he met.
~He treated everyone like family.
~He was a hard worker, very dependable.
~He seemed to be very easy-going, I can only remember one time that he ever got mad, that
actually scared me.
~He was very funny.
~He always tried to lighten another's bad mood.
~He showed love physically, he was a hugger, he let you know verbally that he loved you.
~He was sympathetic to other's needs/hurts.

*Seen through my child-like eyes, obviously no one is perfect, he had his flaws and his struggles, but my love for him, could only see the good in him.
















1976~ mom, dad, and me


















1977~ mom, dad and me


















1996~ Sheldon's first birthday, my dad's first trip back to Ohio, since I was a baby.


















My dad, with his long time girlfriend Rosie.





Five years ago, at the funeral.........













Maybe the only good that came from this day, was meeting all four siblings from my dad's first marriage. (Angie, Maria, Albert, Patty, & Me)
There was a natural bond there, as if I had always known them.


















My Uncle Ernesto, and my brother Albert.













Me~getting to know my sister Angie.


























Onorina, in the middle.







5 out of 19 siblings that my dad has/had.












Cleyo...the only quiet one, in a room full of Italians.












A small amount of my very "LARGE" family, after the funeral.

12/2/09

Insatiable Eyes

I posted this on my Facebook page, but I want to share this with friends and family here, that are not part of Facebook.

We must guard our eyes. If we are being honest, we know that much temptation starts with the eyes........................


The Eyes of men comparable to Hell and Destruction? That is disturbing !!!

Insatiable Eyes
December 2, 2009

"Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied." (Proverbs 27:20)

There are many warnings in Scripture about "the lust of the eyes" (1 John 2:16) that can turn our hearts away from that which is godly and eternal. Solomon's sober caution in our text is certainly significant, especially since he had admonished his son, "Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee" (Proverbs 4:25). Similarly, Job had "made a covenant with |his| eyes"(Job 31:1) lest his "heart walked after" what he looked at (Job 31:7).

Abraham's nephew, Lot, eventually lost everything after he "lifted up his eyes" and chose to "|pitch| his tent toward Sodom" (Genesis 13:12), developing an initial tolerance for that ungodly environment and unwilling to separate from the people who were "wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly" (Genesis 13:13).

Later, Lot actually dwelt in Sodom, with his goods (Genesis 14:12). Soon the association became a lifestyle, a conscious choice in spite of obvious wickedness that caused him great distress, "for that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds" (2 Peter 2:7-8). Chedorlaomer sacked the cities and took Lot captive. Even then, he was so tied to his association with the Sodomites that he went back!

Finally, Lot "sat in the gate of Sodom" (Genesis 19:1) when the angels came to destroy the city. That's equivalent to being one of the "movers and shakers" of the city--perhaps even comparable to being on the city council. This tragic life had every opportunity to share in the joy of Abraham's calling, but Lot threw it all away for the sake of his "eyes." May God grant us eyes that "see" truth. HMM III

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I love this song from Casting Crowns;

"Slow Fade"

Be careful little eyes what you see... See More
It's the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it's the little feet behind you that are sure to follow

It's a slow fade when you give yourself away
It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
It's a slow fade, it's a slow fade

Be careful little ears what you hear
When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near
Be careful little lips what you say
For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray

It's a slow fade when you give yourself away
It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day

The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you're thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking

It's a slow fade when you give yourself away
It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day

Oh be careful little eyes what see
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
For the Father up above is looking down in love
Oh be careful little eyes what you see

12/1/09

RSVP

If you have not RSVP'd for Jan 1st, please do so soon, that way I can get a head count for adults and children. I should have included in the invite that we are making arrangements to have childcare for nursery and a supervised room for the older children, there might not be enough room for adults and children around the tables.



I am hoping to have extra chairs set up along the wall, so that you can keep your children with you, until after the ceremony part is over, then the children will be served their meal, in those rooms, while adults enjoy a time of fellowship, games and a meal together.

And.............due to Ohio State going to the Rose Bowl, (same day and same time!), we are also trying to arrange a way to play the game, with no sound, so that anyone that wanted to catch the scores or plays here and there, will be able to............working on it..............

11/25/09

Still here..............

Updates are coming soon.
I have not abandoned this blog. I really do enjoy keeping an active journal of our family, and updating many of you that do not live close to me. BUT, a few months ago I joined Facebook, and have really enjoyed it, even though I said that I would NEVER do it! Just like I said I would NEVER blog, (not a person of my word, am I), but I love the socializing I get from FB, and I love that I have contact with some of my family, and I love that I can write quick comments back and forth, but at the same time, I have to guard my time on it, it can be very addictive, at least for me anyways!

So............soon, maybe today............I will be posting some updates.

10/25/09

Daniel, as George....

These pictures were taken today, while pulling out costumes for tonight's Trunk-r-Treat;


















































































In the picture above, if you look at the eye, you can see Daniel's nose.


















































































































Until recently, Daniel was scared of this mask, and all masks. He had so much fun being silly with this mask, he cracks us up!!!